New research has revealed that come-we-stay relationships in Kenya are no longer an assured path to marriage.
The research tried to find out how the young people in the country’s capital are viewing marriage in the growing wasteland that is the Kenyan job market.
The results showed that at least 22 percent are getting their first child out of wedlock. Kenya is in the top 10 – of 30 countries in the world that were studied – with the biggest number of women giving birth outside of marriage.
The Kenyan scientists on relationships also discovered that a big number of young men in the country are keeping off marriage until they get a steady source of income to support a family.
Young Kenyan relationships more about fiance
On the flip side, many Kenya young women are approaching marriage from an economic point of view, looking for potential mates with a secure source of income.
And despite the constant claims of gender equality, the women interviewed in the study did not seem excited by the idea of providing financial assistance or “feeding” husbands.
“Nowadays, having a wife is a burden because no one else will help to take care of your family,” one male participant was quoted as saying.
Due to these inhibitions, the researchers found out. Many Nairobi young people have adopted come-we-stay relationships as loophole towards marriage.
The scientists found out that the average time that unwed Kenyan moms could take before finally tying the knot has increased from approximately three years in the 90s to four years today.
Children out of wedlock a big issue in Kenya
However, – apart from in Chad and Senegal – many African women who get children out of wedlock are finding it more difficult to get life partners.
Unwed single moms in neighboring Uganda are likely to walk down the aisle a bit earlier than their counterparts in Kenya.
The study authors also found with many Kenyan women also earning a steady living, they are able to fend for their children without seeing the need to be married.
The study was published in the Journal of Marriage and Family